Dear Sister,
Our family dynamics have always been complex, and while it's not easy to confront these challenges, I believe it's necessary to address them head-on. This is about encouraging you to pause and question the narrative that has surrounded us for so long.
Examining Family Dynamics
The way you are treated mirrors the ways Pa and Suzy treated Mom, and it's a cycle we've seen repeated across generations. Remember Suzy’s behavior towards you during Mom's memorial service? It was unfair and disrespectful. Greg, our older brother, has been groomed to perpetuate this behavior as well, and it's disheartening to see this manipulation passed down.
Challenging the Norms
I understand that you've come to see gaslighting as a normal part of relationships, but it's important to challenge this belief. Manipulation and emotional games are not acceptable. They shouldn't define your interactions because they breed toxicity and misunderstanding.
Encouragement to Reflect
I urge you to take a moment and reflect on these patterns. Consider the impact they have on your relationships and your sense of self. Ask yourself why this behavior persists and to whose benefit it serves. Understanding these dynamics can be the key to breaking free from them.
Seeking Change and Growth
While we may not share a close bond, I still hope for healthier relationships for both of us. Change begins with recognizing the truth of our situations and choosing a new path. By questioning the status quo, you can find empowered relationships built on respect and honesty.
Conclusion
As I conclude this letter, I hope it encourages a moment of self-reflection and growth. We both deserve relationships that are genuine and supportive. I hope you find your path to a healthier dynamic, free from manipulation and control.
Alan