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The Ripple Effect of Narcissism: When Milly Called the Cops

Introduction: A Disruptive Day in the Yard

It was supposed to be a simple, albeit chilly, day tasked with a yard project. Snow covered the ground, turning a regular chore into a significant endeavor. But what should have been a straightforward activity quickly spiraled out of control, leading to a dramatic and unexpected conclusion. The undercurrents of narcissism, specifically influenced by Milly, Julie's mother, played a crucial role in unraveling the day's events.


Milly

The Inciting Incident: A Yard Project Gone Wrong

The yard needed attention, and I needed Julie’s help. However, the simple act of planning turned contentious. Julie, embroiled in the narcissistic tendencies perpetuated by Milly, refused to collaborate. Instead, she called her parents, further escalating the situation. Before long, the police were involved, and what could have been resolved with simple communication turned into a full-blown crisis.


Police Car in snow

The Climax: Being Taken Away

The scene unfolded with chilling familiarity. The police arrived, and despite my pleas for understanding, I was taken away (not in handcuffs). I spent the next couple days in a hotel room. This moment harkened back to past traumas, where abusive figures wielded control and the presence of law enforcement marked a turning point. The cycle of narcissistic behavior had come full circle, revealing deep-seated patterns of control and irrationality.


Flashback: A Similar Crisis in Childhood

In a poignant flashback, I was transported to my eighth-grade year. My stepfather's abusive behavior had culminated in another law enforcement intervention. The tears, the fear, the sense of helplessness – it was all too familiar. The past and present crises mirrored each other, highlighting the persistent and damaging influence of narcissistic control.


Ripples

The Ripple Effects of Narcissistic Control

Narcissistic behaviors extend far beyond the immediate moments of conflict. They create ripples, affecting emotional and psychological well-being across generations. Self-absorption, an insatiable craving for control, and interpersonal problems are just the tip of the iceberg. The deeper impacts include emotional scars, psychological turmoil, and a perpetuation of generational trauma that is challenging to break.


Reflection: Accountability

Reflecting on these events, it became clear that holding Julie accountable was essential, despite Milly's overwhelming influence. Setting firm boundaries and insisting on planning and collaboration are crucial steps in overcoming narcissistic control. While difficult, these actions help promote healthier interactions and mitigate the long-term effects of narcissistic behaviors.


Healing

Moving Forward

Understanding and breaking the cycle of narcissistic control is not just necessary – it’s imperative. For the sake of healthier relationships and emotional well-being, proactive measures must be taken. By fostering empathy, promoting clear communication, and setting firm boundaries, we can start to heal from the ripple effects of narcissism.

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